Hey , it’s Pixie Stardust, the boldest fairy of the Internet !
Today, we’re going to talk about a really important issue to me, feminism : yes, this word that immediatly makes you think about ugly women that don’t shave their armpits and scold like fishwives that had their little toe crushed by a whale! Feminism has never been more topical with Internation Women’s Day, March the 8th, threats against Emma Watson for her feminist commitments, lebanese journalist Rima Karaki’s grip that deserves respect and domestic violence against women banned in Algeria since March the 5th, feminist news are hot!
There’s a fine line between a sexy women who is aware of her sexuality wearing reveling clothes that show her body (or even naked as a jaybird, because I’m like a biiird, I only fly away, I don’t know where my soul is, hum. Well.) and a women that wear those same reveling clothes to please (consciously or not) to a society dominated by men to satisfy their sexual fantasies. I have a hard time telling the difference because I think it’s all about the intention of the woman and it’s too easy to judge her without slut-shaming her right away ! Despite this I’m still wondering if it’s relevant for celebrities like Miley Cyrus, Beyoncé or Nicki Minaj considering themselves as ‘feminists’ or say they’re totally free with their sexuality and body while they show bodies considered as beautiful and valuable in showbiz…
Consequently, we can realize that their clothes, but the way they move in them, as well is imitated by their fans (often quite young), but the fact that they don’t have their idols’ fame don’t protect them from being called names such as ‘hoe’, ‘bitch’ (pronounce it with a slight hood accent :)) or ‘easy’, while their idols are often apreciated for the same behaviour although those fans cope bullying sometimes.Kim Kardashian has become famous because of a sex-tape and is respected by millions of people while young girls like Amanda Todd commit suicide because of stolen, risqué photos exposed against their will that became the cause of a daily moral and physical harassement? I have nothing against Kim Kardashian and co. (I’ve laughed so hard watching an episode of ‘Keeping Up With the Kardashians’ even if it’s not a huge accomplishement in my Internet fairy life!), but it’s not fair that some people are admired and other bullied for the same acts: wazzup double standard! Same thing with men that can sleep with a lot of women without being called a ‘slut’ (which has actually no equivalent for males, ‘slut’ meaning promiscuous GIRL…)
However, comparison with men, even if it’s often justified in cases like equal salaries and rights can be dangerous sometimes because we’re not just copies of men, we are women! With this statement we can’t be considered as men with voluptuous bodies and tendencies to like
face paint make-up ! So, it’s up to us to create or develop a new vision of power that would combine ‘masculine’ sides traditionally related to power (strengh, domination, ambition, assertiveness…) and ‘feminine’ sides (intelligence, creativity, being a good listener, patience, intuition…) in order to have the best of both worlds (you have the right to hate me if you have this epic Hannah Montana theme song in your head because of me!)
Moreover, the women issue is also a big deal for men because they’re reduced to their masculine essence too, that is to say their strengh that allows them to protect women and children, which can prevent them to show their sensitive side and their feelings without being seen as ‘faggots’ or ‘weak’, so they lose their connection with their emotions and are unhappy. We often mistake protecting and dominating : when you’re protecting someone, you take care of him/her without oppressing him/her, being respectful and dominating someone means violating psychic and/or physical boundaries to subjugate the person. The problem with most boys’ and then men’s socialization is that it’s based on the fear of being dominated by women and the humiliation and reject of their ‘feminine’ side (yin) to only embrace their ‘masculine’ side (yang) pushing them to reject themselves in a way rejecting not only women but also feminine with capital F, making them incomplete.
I hope you enjoyed this more serious-minded article and I fly away to infinty and beyoooond !!!
Pixie Stardust =)